Do you want to be happy or "right?"  Are you willing and open to learning or do you act as if you "already should know?"  These are two questions Dr. Julia Colwell asks when she teaches about essential relationship skills. Your responses to the above two questions will influence how frequently you engage in power struggles.  Power struggles emerge from reactive fighting and defending ourselves.  We all know this experience.  We are human.  Our feelings get triggered around our differences and...
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Many of you have heard of the popular guide to understanding the opposite sex, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, written by John Gray nearly 15 years ago.  I remember initially thinking, "Oh, come on, isn't this a bit simplistic and gender biased?"  Now we have neuroscience to confirm much of what John Gray has written.  Our hormones play a HUGE role in affecting how our brains work and what each gender needs to create intimacy in the relationship.  Following are some research findings...
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